Learning how to treat yourself without feeling guilty when you’re chronically ill is hard.
Your illness keeps you from many things and when you do feel well enough to do something you try to spend time with your friends and loved ones. The guilt you feel because of how little time you get with them is always there. Maybe you focus on cleaning or cooking because you feel bad about not giving enough in your relationship. But what about you? Don’t you deserve to have a good day AND do something nice for yourself? I get it but I’m still going to tell you how to treat yourself without feeling guilty when you’re chronically ill.
Yes, you do and it can possibly help you feel better longer. This may give you time to spend doing other things you usually do on pain-free days. I can’t tell you how important it is to treat yourself without feeling guilty when you’re chronically ill. Stress can make you worse so ditch the guilt.
After laying in bed or being couch-bound fighting your illness a good day does not necessarily mean you should catch up on laundry
You’re fighting the good fight day in and day out, surviving pain others would be unable to cope with. A good day is your day to feel even better. Don’t let guilt make you do something chore-like.
my go-to’s is a mani/pedi because it just feels SO good. Same with massage but only if my body isn’t tender from the pain. On those good days, I have other things I like to enjoy. But back to the mani/pedi. If you need “medical” reasons to feel less guilty about getting a manicure or pedicure, I have those too:
- In this article on Cosmopolitan, it explains “…Gabby Bernstein, author of Miracles Now.” [says] “Our self-care routines help keep us in the present.” So if taking time out to do your nails — or get a massage or do a home facial — helps you mellow out and feel sane for a sec, why not embrace it?…”
Laroma Therapies site says “Feet are one of the most neglected parts of our bodies and often get left off our regular beauty routine. Pedicures are similar to manicures except they are specially designed for feet. During a pedicure, your nails will be cleaned, shaped and trimmed to prevent ingrown nails. The exfoliating and massage elements can relieve aching feet and muscles and stimulate circulation. The oils and moisturising elements will keep feet well-hydrated and prevent dry cracked heels, which can be painful and unsightly. Pedicures generally include application of a toenail varnish. A regular pedicure will promote healthy, beautiful feet & toenails. It is also very relaxing.”
- Skin Klinic & Day Spa is quoted noting “During any manicure or pedicure, you receive a relaxing massage of the hands and feet. This helps to improve blood circulation and improves mobility for the joints.”
- On this page of Health And Style Institute I found this information: “Both the physical and mental health benefits of getting a manicure and pedicure are incredible. Your feet and hands will both look and feel great, your stress will go down, and your circulation will increase. The whole procedure takes relatively little time…”
- This article on Angie’s List says “Many salons have a relaxing environment that promotes total wellness.”
As you can see there are many more reasons than having pretty nails to go to the nail salon.
I could argue that they are vital to your health and well-being. Guilt bad, pretty nails good.
If you don’t learn to treat yourself without feeling guilty when you’re chronically ill then you aren’t taking care of yourself well enough. I’m not saying that to add more guilt but because YOU are the only one who can take care of you. You definitely deserve it after all you are going through.
Maybe a mani/pedi isn’t your thing and that’s okay. Here are other posts I’ve written about self-care that may be more to your taste. How do you spend your ‘good’ days? How do you take care of yourself guilt-free?
I love hearing all about how you tackle your struggles with chronic illness!
Do you have other tips you can share with us? Most spoonies have found workarounds for all types of things and I’d love to share your advice. Write a comment below or send me an email.
Kim is a freelance blogger, writer and VA. She loves sharing resources for other “spoonies” to help them create lives they love. Hoarding crochet patterns on Pinterest is her second favorite thing.