I have failed my diet more times than I care to admit
When I do, it causes me to overeat or eat more of the wrong things. I sometimes become irritable and frustrated with myself. With my diseases I know I should be eating according to my doctor’s suggestions but…some days I just want to throw a tantrum because all I really want is to be NORMAL again! Is that what you do when you fail your diet?
Is this you? Do you look in your cabinets or fridge and want to cry or throw things because all you really want is a huge cheeseburger dripping with ketchup or a hot fudge brownie sundae?
I get it, I’ve been there many, many times. I went a whole 5 months following a fat-free diet only for my doctor to tell me it wasn’t working and now I should try doing a low carb diet. Really?! These two diets are at opposite ends of the spectrum. Switching around can also cause you to fail your diet.
I’ve tried AIP, Paleo, Vegan and other diets
I’m at the point where I don’t believe any of them will work so why should I try any others. It is frustrating and depressing. *takes bite of celery stick and cries*
I know you are doing your best so you don’t fail your diet. I also know how hard this is for you. Since you may not know or remember, I want to share some things that I want you to know:
- You are human and you are valuable no matter what you do or don’t do. Never let failure keep you down or make you feel worthless.
- Everybody fails, there is no way to be perfect. You can either quit trying or you can get up and try again. Either way, you are loved.
One bad day or week does not make you a failure. Diets are hard, eating differently is hard to get used to and everyone has their bad days. Give yourself some credit for trying and…remove the evidence of that cheesecake you just ate…no, the whole cheesecake.
- Criticizing yourself will never make your diet successful. Allowing yourself leeway and positive self-talk will go a lot further in helping you succeed. Don’t talk to yourself in any way you would never allow someone to talk to your loved ones.
- Sometimes remembering why we started the diet helps us try harder to stick to it. If your diet is for medical reasons, try to remember why you started the diet. You had a choice and you chose to change your diet. Why? Do you have kids or grandkids you want to stay alive for? Do you want a better quality of life? Will the diet improve your symptoms or disease?
You are beautiful whether or not you are successful with your diet. Your beauty is never about your diet or your body or anything other than a good heart.
- Asking for help can make all the difference in following through with your diet. If you are too weak or in too much pain to go shopping, you will run out of things to eat and drink. If you keep the food you need in stock, you have a much better chance of succeeding. Ask your significant other, kids, friends or neighbors if they will go to the grocery store for you. Swallow that pride, after the first few times asking for help gets much easier.
You and I may have failed our diets but we are made of strong stuff. We have to be so we can continue to create a better quality of life for ourselves and loved ones. Let’s get back on that horse together and remember to treat ourselves with kindness we would show others in our position.
Asking for help so you don’t fail your diet and reminding yourself of the reasons you chose to start this diet can help you continue on this journey
Try remembering that if you fail your diet it is not the end but could be the beginning of learning how to be more successful in managing your illness.
We are beautiful. YOU are valuable. We are strong. Never forget that!
I love hearing all about how you tackle your struggles with chronic illness!
Do you have other tips you can share with us? Most spoonies have found workarounds for all types of things and I’d love to share your advice. Write a comment below or send me an email.
Kim is a freelance blogger, writer and VA. She loves sharing resources for other “spoonies” to help them create lives they love. Hoarding crochet patterns on Pinterest is her second favorite thing.